Struggling with stress, feeling overwhelmed, or handling uncertainty and change?

The world's a very different place than it was at the beginning of March. And yet the experience for some has been vastly different from that of others. So what makes the difference?

Help with stress with Cognitive Hypnotherapy in Leighton Buzzard and Milton Keynes

Resilience.

Here are three things you can do to increase your resilience, learn to cope with chaos, and bounce back quicker.

1 Accept What Is

A redundancy letter isn’t stressful in itself. But our experience of it might be. Anger at our employer. Worry about another job. Upset leaving colleagues behind. The stress is in our beliefs and perceptions.

"Why does it have to be this way!?" Any anger, regret, or fear is understandable. But we can get stuck trying to hold on to the certainty of what was. (Or what we thought there was).

Resilience is about adapting. And the first step is starting where we are - not clinging to where we're not. The quicker we accept the reality of now, the quicker we can adapt to it. Which leads us to…

2 Do Something (Different)

We make a lot of assumptions. About what's true, what's possible, what we're capable of, or what may or may not happen. "I won't find another job" presupposes there's no point in trying. But how do you know unless you do?

We want to shift from panic to problem-solving. And we do that by getting curious. And challenging our assumptions. "What can I do now?" "How else could I do this?".

Resilient people take action. And if what they're doing isn't working, they try something else. They also check their perspective. And get that from others if they need. Which leads us to…

3 Pull together

Jobs often ask for 'self-starters'. But independence and isolation aren't the same thing.

One of the biggest stress remedies is connection. It's why we feel better tackling a problem with others. And why we can feel so alone without. We're a social species. Stronger together. And we've survived this long because of it.

Resilient people have a strong support network. They get others involved when they can. And ask for help when they need. Even just to talk things through.

Keep on keeping on

Every time we turn away from difficulty, we give our brain the message we're not up to it. It may feel safer, but we don't grow.

When we start facing those difficulties, and treating them like challenges, we start to build belief in our capabilities. And then the question of 'if' we can cope begins to shift more naturally to 'how'.

(Struggling with stress, difficult circumstances, or getting the right support?Cognitive Hypnotherapy in Leighton Buzzard can help you. Get in touch to learn how)